I'm Baaaack!

[sfreihofer]

I once was a regular here. I was rebuilding a Cape Dory 25, and relied on the expertise and assistance of this board many times. I posted my progress on www.ReefRoof.com. Then, a jealous and vindictive wife decided to create havoc in my life by not just filing for divorce, but by issuing a Restraining Order as well, and threw me out of the home where the boat was.

That was then. In the interim, I maintained my membership, but did not participate online since I had very limited access to my home, the boat, or to the internet. I had been charged as an abusive husband, but the reality was that my (now ex-)wife was trying to use the legal system to abuse me. It didn't work, but to prove her intent involved 3 psychological evaluations and many legal bills. Short story is: I have custody of my son, I have the house, I have the boat, but now I don't have money.

The result: I'm back. I missed these discussions, the fellowship, the friendships, and the feedback. Next on my agenda is to (finally) launch S/V Pearl, but that will have to wait until lingering financial issues are resolved regarding alimony and child support.

What a relief! Good to be back among friends!

Stan Freihofer
S/V Pearl
www.ReefRoof.com

[Neil Gordon]

Stan,

As many know, LIQUIDITY, and the friends on this board, have been with me through similar circumstances.

Great to have you back on board!

[Jerry Hammernik]

Welcome back. As you have probably seen, your name and your boat have been mentioned in your absence. Take comfort in the fact that Pearl will always love you. It's a great restoration and you'll have great times sailing soon. Hang in there.

Maybe you can find someone who wants to learn how to sail and will share expenses for a season in exchange for knowledge.

[sfreihofer]

Thank you Neil, and thank you Jerry! It's great to be back among friends who are always willing to help. You all are great! I am sooo glad to be back among supporters and done with the detractor...

[Carl Thunberg]

Hi Stan,
There are many of us here who have been through what you have, and we all come out the other side. I lost my CD30 in a divorce. Downsizing to a Rhodes 18 wasn't necessarily by choice, but I do love sailing small boats. There are up-sides to everything, and life only moves in one direction, and that direction is always forward. Welcome back!
Carl

[Ken Cave]

Guess I am one of the very lucky ones!! My wife, of 50 plus years-and first and only one,
just loves to sail! And she has put up with my crankiness with a smile! (most of the time)

Sorry guys, she is not available-and hopefully we will be sailing for the next 10 years
if our health (and legs) hold out!

Ken and Betsy Cave
CD 28 #227
LaConner, WA

[Zeida]

Stan, I'm delighted to hear from you again. Count me in for whatever you need to help keep s/v Pearl in good health. I constantly think of her..and you, having met both of you in better circumstances. Hopefully that terrible chapter of your life is now resolved and I am sure you will find peace of mind and new and loving friends soon, especially the love of your little Pearl who has been missing you forever.

Zeida

[jbenagh]

Stan,

glad to hear you emerged on the other side to keep up with the boat project. It's a good way to keep your head in a better place.

Jeff

[Steve Bryant]

Hi Stan,

You know why divorces are so expensive?

Because they're worth it!

Good Luck,

[guy leslie]

Stan,
Welcome back! It brought to mind your former posts of the incredible work you've done on Pearl. I was thrilled to re-visit your site and marvel at your skills. Your return also opened thoughts of this amazing board's special people- way beyond our wonderful boats! Congratulations,
Guy

[Joe Myerson]

Stan,
Welcome back. Enjoy your life and enjoy your boat. You're always welcome here.
Best,
--Joe