I have this unfortunate habit of asserting things that I'm unsure of with unreasonable confidence because people react to them. That seems to be to be the best way to learn on the internet. Thank you for letting me push you a bit and providing really useful information. I realize it can get annoying and I'm sorry about that.You have clearly stated you want a fin keel boat. That's cool. You should get one
I'm really intrigued by your argument that when you have two boats of a similar size, both loaded for cruising, the full keeled boat is more trustworthy and similarly-performing offshore. I can't say I'm fully convinced, but you make the case clearly (Vigor does as well, but he doesn't do forums anymore) and that's a claim I'll keep paying attention to in case I find myself needing to make that choice, which might happen.
My experience biases me because I've been in multiple storms with the Beneteau (which the boat handled fine), and haven't in a CD over 30'. That's one downside with selecting cruising boats. Racers are always looking for crew and regularly sail through storms with them. How can I get CD 30+ storm-experience before buying?
As for me and at the moment (sorry, this is a bit off-topic for the original post), what I want most is a trailerable boat, ideally one with some offshore capabilities. I think that I've got the closest I can get to that within my budget. Sometimes it really bothers me that I can't go the place I want to on the day I want to when another boat (like my friend's Beneteau) could, but sometimes I can (like when getting to that place requires a trailer and truck).
Like you've said, "all boats are tradeoffs."
Thank you!